In Defense of Divorce


… and breakups, i.e., “I-don’t-ever-want-to-see-you-agains.”

Part of what attracts us to our ideal other halves is their looks (six-packs, nice boobs, bow legs, Rihanna-look-alike-hairstyle, and the like).

But the part that plays the major role, or at least should, is their thinking* (which determines their “character”).

A human being is an evolving creature. And its thinking isn’t an exception.

Which then means that one is never really “the same person.” From the onset ’till the end of their being.

While two terribly in love lovers might be of the same character, or of “compatible” characters, it is possible for their thinking, thus their “character,” to grow into one (whether good or bad) that isn’t compatible with their other half’s then character.

*I don’t want to talk about love. Love is for lovers. I’m not a lover. I’m an artist.

Good people do breakup. Rather that, than force a relationship that isn’t “working out” to work out. That’s rarely a fruitful exercise.

The challenge is, of course, that when a separation happens, the logical side of the about-to-separated dies, temporarily.

(Besides, “forever” is a very long time to promise someone.)




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— July 5, 2011.