Reasons We Breed


In some societies, most actually, dying without leaving a piece or pieces of you (i.e., a kid or two) behind, is regarded as having died a failure, or, worse still, not having lived at all.

As living beings, do we really owe life a life or five?

Seeing that we exist, whether planned or not, as a result of our parents’ having had unprotected sex. They were given life, by their parents, and then, they gave us life.

But, which is more selfish: To be given a life and not give a life in return, or, to give a life for your own selfish reasons?

More often that not, we, as a people, make kids:

(1) To appear complete. For we are made to believe that a family minus the kid(s) is no longer a family, but a couple.

(2) To ensure that our surname, culture, beliefs, ideologies, and, religion, lives on.

Seeing that, if, for example, Christians stopped producing offsprings of their own, Christianity is almost certain to be extinct. Or, if, for example, all Vendas stopped breeding, Venda, their language, will only be read, and, no longer heard.

(3) As an attempt to achieve (through imposing dreams that we failed to achieve — on our kids) dreams that slipped through our hands.

So, maybe, just maybe, when they made you, it wasn’t because your parents wanted you. It might have been that your father, who failed to become, say, a lawyer, just wanted to have a second chance to have a lawyer with your last name.

(That’s more likely if whatever that you have studied, or, is studying, was forced on you, by either or both your parents. In such cases, kids are nothing but parents’ second, third, or, thirteenth attempts to conquer dreams that conquered them.)




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— November 30, 2011.